Ask Lemmy

shit sucks

no fucking doubt about it

antianxiety medicine helps but

really you need to find you

nothing else matters.

once you can understand your self, telling others your limits and expectations is just the flow of life that you're expecting

I don’t know what to tell you. One of the major reasons I decided not to have children is because the future looks so bleak.

You’ve already given your opinion on therapy. All I can suggest is that you keep trying. I know that’s exhausting, but please hear me out. Finding the right therapist is essential, and can take several attempts. The same goes for the type and dosage of medication. Depression isn’t like other forms of disease. What works for one person may not work for someone else.

What I’ve learned from the various psychiatrists and psychologists I’ve seen is that there’s still a LOT we don’t understand about how the brain works. I don’t think less of them for trying anyway. They’re (mostly) good people trying to do their best.

Well, that turned out to be a lot for a reply that started with “I don’t know what to tell you.” Oh well. I’ll skip the platitudes and simply wish you well.

Either get used to change in the hopes it will become better, or get used to being miserable in my life you have now. By the way, you’re gonna be uncomfortable in One Direction or the other, so I suggest you choose the better one.

If you hate your life now, but are also terrified to change, you’re gonna have to decide which one is worth, and during that discomfort: things staying the same, the way you hate it, or enduring the terror of the unknown, your life, possibly improving.

Such thoughts can be very overwhelming, ever present, consuming. Imagine swimming against a strong current. Sometimes it's important to just take a break. Get out of the stream and watch it rush by. Of course you can't stay out forever, there are factors beyond your reach, it pulls you back in. But the best bet to beat the pull of this vortex is to try and create as many of these breaks as possible. Small as they may be. While you rest, consider the advice in this thread. It's benevolent, you know? Consider a dialectic position. For every bad thing that pulls you down, think about a good thing that lifts you up too. Literature can be powerfull too, in that you might discover descriptions, states and emotions in which you find yourself in a way you never could phrase it yourself. It's all about a balance of "being seen", receiving empathy, regaining agency and changing perception.

Straight to jail

You can try my method: therapy, medication, and counting the days until I die from heart disease.

you could start learning c++and contribute to some open sourced games out there

Welcome to my world, friend. It's not as if I don't have friends because I couldn't put on the societal mask and make them; I just simply hate humans that much. Only people I can stand being around are philosophers. People who take a step back and think about the world from a unburdened point of view, and people who talk about what the solutions might one day be.

Only thing that ended up saving me is my wife and children. I would have clocked out long ago. Find someone that hates humanity with you, and cherish them. Or find someone who loves humanity to balance you.