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[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Aaaaand there it is, this is exactly why normal people aren't switching to these platforms, dude: not all of us are technical geeks, we have lives and things going on outside of this stuff, we don't view everything in the same lens as you do (shocker, I know), not all of us are gonna worship what you worship, a lot of you are so goddamn hostile and then wonder why people refuse to leave social media, get real...

Again, not an expert here, do I need to put that in bold letters for you not to immediately be passive aggressive on first sight? I just got here dude, back off.

Also you guys constantly make random projects and forks off of stuff all the damn time, and their not small tiny little projects either from looking at them, from my perspective it literally is just about there being no interest, stop justifying laziness, nothing will ever get done with that logic.

My bad for bothering with your niche insulated platforms, will be a lot more hesitant with that next time, enjoy constantly scaring new people off and never knowing why I guess.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Thx for this! Much appreciated! Although when I posted in the nostupidquestions one I only got swarmed with exclusively political responses (that didn't even answer my question) and even one guy being an ass about it, even though I didn't ask anything political at all, nor did I want that...

Is there anything like that community but less toxic and unhelpful by any chance?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 14 hours ago (5 children)

Hmmm, as simply as I can put it: it's kinda like an image search engine (one that, believe it or not: actually gives you what your looking for, crazy I know), you type whatever your looking for, a bunch of stuff relating to that pops up, you pin and organise that stuff in your profiles boards and groupings or download them locally, and it adapts to you and gives you more relevant stuff that your interested in, super handy for references, trying to quickly find images, and ideas in general, that's what it's made for in the first place so it's pretty popular among creatives for a reason!

I'm not an expert at all but, I'm kinda shocked something like that hasn't ever been thought of for the fediverse, isn't it's whole thing like, everything can talk with everything? Wouldn't a pinterest alternative be rather straight forward then? Just have the service crawl all of the fediverse for public images, and show them to users looking for them (I don't think you'd need an insanely massive server or anything to pull that off, the service just links to everything and doesn't technically store those images itself unless you click download or something), kinda how pinterest itself works I think so, I guess it's just nobody here cares enough about that to bother with it, not enough artists/creatives around I'm presuming, bummer...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Thanks for the welcome! Appreciate it stranger!

That really sucks, but I guess that's just how it is these days, thanks for the suggestions anyways. I occasionally hear about friendica, but there's like, nothing for it outside of its website and years old posts mentioning it, kinda seems dead and desolate looking at it from the outside, only pixelfed sorta seems alive and kicking out of the two.

I'll share some of my initial ramblings, experiences, complaints, and opinions on here incase you want that, if not then my bad, sorry lol:

SpoilerTbh most of the fediverse still doesn't seem to have reached a meaningful "critical mass" from my POV, mastodon is as close as it's gonna get it seems, and even there it's nowhere near as active as even the smallest of the mainstream social medias, also nobody on the fediverse seems to care about anything but politics and tech, that's literally the most major con for me, those are the only 2 dominating topics on these platforms, can't escape it, it's everywhere, jesus lol, everything else is completely sidelined or straight up just not a topic because of how few people are around. Not "normie" or anything non-political/techy friendly at all it seems, nothing I'm interested in or need is active or cared about on any of these fediverse platforms, everything's kinda dead and desolate outside of the main 2 topics, bummer. God I miss the old internet man, everything suuuuuucks now, wtf happened...

I'm really hoping things get better here because my god we badly need alternatives to the big platforms, there's literally nothing outside of them anymore, I wouldn't be here if I wasn't forced to, again sorta got forcefully plunged here whether this place was ready or not, but unless fediverse stuff starts really pushing advertising and actually catering to the normal person or something, anything, then I really can't see this whole thing going anywhere beyond a niche secret geeky political club.

All the major problems I'm seeing here at a first glance that would prevent a normal person from ever trying these things out, simply stems from there being just not enough people, thus not many different people with different experiences and interests to talk to, thus not enough different public topics and communities, thus not enough engagement and activity, thus not enough speedy development or interest in developing more alternatives to stuff, thus not enough feedback, and thus: an echo chamber of just 2 things and not much else, and apparently everyone here takes pride in that and makes it their whole identity, lot of hostile politics obsessed people here on lemmy especially, not been a fun experience browsing around, so yeah, no clue if we'll ever have any real competition to social media besides bluesky I guess, am probably gonna get dogpiled for saying all that but, just being honest here with my initial experiences: it's not great, getting some cult vibes from some of the communities and people here, and those seem to be the majority, not the minority, so very difficult to get past them.

If It wasn't clear, I don't care whatsoever about politics, most normal people don't and never will, i just wanna live man, already got enough issues on my plates as it is, 1 or 2 topics aren't my whole identity, don't need that shit shoved in my face 24/7 everywhere I go and guilt tripped/pressured into all that nonsense if I post in any vaguely populated community (posted a question about social media on a questions community and immediately got swarmed with exclusively political responses, just one single guy commented something that wasn't political and that's it, none of it even answered my question, it's a complete echo chamber man, wtf am I supposed to engage with on here? 💀), it's legitimately so annoying and frustrating, no wonder why there's not that many people on here if the main content and audience are that. Definitely won't post much on here if that's what I should expect, even reddit as awful as it can be is much better in this regard then lemmy, never had that sort of experience on there even once, just wish they weren't being assholes right now and banning a bunch of people for no reason or explanations, otherwise the people and content on reddit is just better then lemmy in every way possible, and feels way more welcoming then my initial experiences with lemmy (mastodon is a little friendlier, but waaaay harder to find and talk to anyone on it). There's more to life then screaming at each other guys, don't be shocked if this whole place stagnates because you keep scaring people away for not 100% being like you smh.

Again don't get me wrong, you guys are almost onto something with this project, and if it succeeds then I legitimately think the internet will be a much better place, just need to remember that non technical and political people also exist and should not be treated as second class citizens on here, y'all kinda need those folks or your gonna be forever niche and unviable and nothings gonna change, I seriously hope things get better on here, cause everything sucks right now, online, irl, literally everywhere all at once with no serious alternatives to anything, I yearn for the past so badly 😔

 

To anyone who endured an abusive household: what was it like for you? How did you survive? Have you healed and moved on now? Are you still in the process of healing? Or are you still stuck in an abusive relationship?

 

Couldn't find anything by browsing around. Looking for a community to ask about alternatives to stuff, like an alternative to a social media, or an alternative to something else in general, things like that, anything would be appreciated.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

I'm very sorry to hear that, things have been rough for a lot of us lately as well, I really hope you'll all be in a better place soon, sending hugs to y'all.

I've not been doing the best either tbh, life's being an ass as of late and beating me to a pulp, but I'm surviving for now lol.

 

Some general suggestions and ideas for anyone who's willing to take them on or add onto:

There's not a one size fits all for everyone, and some of us can't afford much financially, so variation in stuff would be deeply appreciated, especially for us who have very neglected and uncared for disorders and life issues, or much heavier stuff in general.

Also some international resources are much needed, not all of us are from the US, let's not automatically assume everyone is from the same place, that's gonna leave out a lot of people (I know it's much easier to just default to one place, but if the priority here is helping others, then let's try to be as inclusive as possible).

Some stuff comes to mind: support groups or communities is one, a lot of us badly need support networks or groups to fall back on, safe spaces, private communities, places where we're understood and cared for, stuff like that, both online and irl. Maybe some matrix/simpleX/signal/discord groups to seek help and connections in? Definitely would be appreciated, keep the links alive, accessible, and active though so people don't miss out on the train if it starts.

Maybe some awareness posts or resources regarding the weaponisation of some mental health stuff against those in need, would definitely resonate with us who have trauma or dealt with abusive/narcissistic folks and the like. Some stuff for people more introverted or have severe anxiety is also much needed, not everybody has the courage to reach out publicly and risk further judgement and trauma.

Maybe some stuff for people who're lost in life or in need of genuine guidance? (Not the "self help" couch kind, that stuffs very predatory...) There's literally nothing for people who were raised like shit and are suddenly plunged into the world all on their own completely unprepared, or people still actively stuck in abusive relationships or households and have no way out on their own, or even people considering being adopted (as an adult), all of that is heavily neglected and uncared for, nobody ever talks about it so I feel like that should be addressed somewhat if possible, the more options for people to get the help that they actually need, the better.

List of reputable orgs and groups that can give good vetted referrals would be really handy, maybe some resources that ranks which countries care the most or least about mental health and minorities and the like as well, bring more awareness to countries that legitimately have nothing for those in need or are really bad at offering help.

Maybe some financial stuff too, things to help survive rough times and the like, maybe some institutions that help with job finding even? Especially for those who don't have any experience or are mentally/physically handicapped, not much out there for that.

Anywho, that's just some ideas, I'm no expert so feel free to do whatever with this!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's totally fine! I don't see a major problem with that. If you wanna go for it or not it's up to you, you can always have other mods who're more familiar and comfortable with heavier topics take charge on some things if need be.

 

Guess I'll be the first one besides the owner to post here lol.

How's everybody doing as of late?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

What do you mean exactly? I'm very confused by that lol, somethings probably flying right over my head, but I don't see why you'd need to disclose any personal information to start something.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Hey there! Yes please, I'd deeply appreciate that! And thank you for the effort of all this, I'll go check it out right now!

I also heard there's a community here called "communitypromo" or something that people sometimes refer to, maybe try posting there and see if it helps attract more people to your community? No clue how effective it is though, but can't hurt to try I guess!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago

The mental image of all of you in a room, sitting on the ground, arms crossed, and backs turned to each other is killing me 💀💀💀

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

At least your not doing badly, but still, I hope you have better days soon stranger, please take care.

Although this place is quiet right now: feel free to reach out if you wanna talk to someone or need anything, hopefully more people will start popping up in the coming days.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 3 days ago

That's good to hear. I hope so too, It's not looking good on that front if I'm completely honest, but fingers crossed I'm hoping at least like, 2 other people show up, I'll take that as a win considering the odds lol.

 

I know people can get weirdly hostile with others getting banned and needing help but, please don't be overly harsh for at least a second, I'm being completely honest and genuine here, otherwise I wouldn't be posting this.

Very sorry if this isn't the place for this, please bear with me as reddit also keeps suspending and deleting my accounts (so can't go there for help, very cool of you reddit 🙃), and tumblr email support hasn't gotten back to me so, nowhere to go for help, these platforms have been really ban happy lately so I'm kinda locked out of most online places now adays. I miss the old internet man, this fucking sucks...

I'll try my best to be as detailed as possible to demonstrate good faith:

I legitimately have no idea what's going on, I haven't been given a warning, an email, anything at all for me to go off of, I very seldom use Tumblr and only posted like, once or twice on there from time to time? (So definitely not spam...) I wasn't reported or anything as far as I know, didn't violate any rules either, didn't do anything crazy compared to the literal porn bots flooding the place without restriction or the fully NSFW profiles on there that can just exist apparently (so if it's "your being too naughty" then that's definitely not it either, I was being far tamer then some of the stuff I've seen on there, though I'm getting mixed signals with tumblr on that, the platform can't seem to decide whether or not it's okay with adults existing or what, it's not fun to navigate if you ask me lol), so I'm very much in the dark here, your guess is as good as mine.

I've emailed support, got nothing, followed up with them, and boom: termination, no explanation or anything, no responses, nothin', found out by accident, same as reddit's bullshit. Apparently others are also experiencing this? Automated systems being poopy at their jobs and randomly flagging people that aren't even bots or malicious, and this has been going on for years it seems so, that fucking sucks, skeleton crew much? How do y'all survive that? 💀

My email didn't get blocked, tumblr sends me a "email request received" when I email them, so not an issue with my email. Not an issue with a VPN either as, again, everything was fine for a while, then suddenly got double whammed with a shadowban and termination out of the blue. Shadowban happened a few days after I made a post, wasn't instant, and the termination as soon as I followed up with support, so like, did they really not want me to email them again after a week and a half of nothing? No clue otherwise, again - nothing clear cut here for me to work off of, stuffs just happening out of nowhere.

Still wanted to be transparent incase something about my case was weird, mind you I'm not very familiar with tumblr culture or anything, so apologies if I should've known some things beforehand. If anyone can help, please do, message me and I'll share my username on there or whatever helps, until then I guess I'll wait for a month or something, and if they don't respond then I'll say my goodbyes to that platform and move on.

Though quick side question: when an account gets terminated, does everything get deleted with it? Is the username permanently gone as well? Is some stuff logged? What would happen if I make another account later on? Would they just instantly terminate it too? Or is all of that a mystery? Just asking.

 

Seen a few links here and there for private C-PTSD discord/signal/matrix/etc groups, but most of the links I've found are dead. Seems to be a "you gotta know a guy that knows a guy" sort of schtick, so anybody here know anything? There's nothing here for heavier stuff on lemmy, and all the public stuff everywhere else sucks, so anything is appreciated, thanks.

 

This place seems completely dead, but still gonna shoot a shot and see if anyone pops up. Anyone here? How are y'all?

 

Hey y'all, no idea how dead this community is but, if anyone's still here: how are you all?

 

Trying to move away from reddit and find equivalents to stuff like r/cptsd, r/suicidewatch, r/depression, r/misanthropy, etc. on here, but so far I haven't found anything that isn't either dead or inactive. Does anyone know of anything? Preferably something welcoming and non toxic, thanks.

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