Reddit wasn't even always like that: I'd say it progressively went downhill during the last decade. Design choices were progressively made to tailor the most toxic users.
maryXann
joined 6 months ago
I do care. I totally get how you can be charismatic in school despite being autistic, that is perhaps the biggest misconception. I personally think if I had no morals and just wanted to make money my best bet would be running some kind of cult (but that would be wrong ofc).
I am a native French speaker who had a phase with an interest toward grammar, so I probably can help you with it if you are learning this language. Also I am quite good at explaining maths to kids or teens, even those with difficulties. It gets harder with adults.
The diag criteria are an ad hoc thing that only exists so that the society has a systematic way of deciding wether a given individual is autistic or not. Someone who just barely misses the criteria to be positevely diagnosed could very well have a lot in common with those who meet slightly more criteria.
Think of it like the administrative criteria to be considered "poor" in a given country: it helps to decide who can benefit from financial help and such, or to have statistics on how fair is the ressource distribution through the time, but it doesn't mean that your life will switch the very moment your income crosses the limit.
Hypersensitivity is its own thing but the comorbidity rate with autism is huge. I's also not always high pitches: personally I have issues with the air pressure, daylight, and many smells.
Oh, one call is already stressfull* for me, but I can manage it. Perhaps it would already qualify as "not comfortable". That said there is a gradation between your average "not your cup of tea but that's ok if you can take your time for it" and "risks having a meltdown in the middle of a phone call". It was dangerously close to that second category.
*Except those from that one person I'd marry if we weren't both 'commies' who think marriage is a thing of the past.
Good luck! Please tell us how it went, I hopefully will reach the same point as you at some point so your experience interests me.
Not speaking for all of them but sometimes just feeling good about yourself is enough. You can even tell them how you appreciate their efforts (assuming you do)