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How are cishet people viewed in general in the LGBTQ community? (beehaw.org)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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First of all I'd like to apologize in advance for any insensitive statements I might make (I hope I don't though), I'm trying my best not to and I was just curious :)

I'm an 18-year-old cishet guy currently in uni and recently the thought popped into my head that I have no clue how the LGBTQ community would view me as someone who's not in the space or actively an ally. I would more accurately describe myself currently as a "don't care" person in the sense that to me it genuinely does not matter what someone identifies as or who someone is attracted to. I don't know how much this means, but I have multiple gay friends, my roommate is bi and I dated a person who went as a girl in day to day life because it was more convenient to her/them although she/they told me she/they partially identified as nonbinary (correct pronoun usage pls >.<) but I don't know if all this is the classic "but i have a black friend" argument that racists use.

To cut to the point: I'm curious as to how I would be seen by queer people in general, as I've witnessed both very inclusive and nice people (mostly here), but also some that said that LGBTQ places are not to be used by cishet people and I'm wondering what the best attitude to take would be.

Thanks!

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

You don't have to know what pronouns she would prefer in an ideal world, just which ones she is using right now. If she's going by she/her, and isn't open about possibly being nonbinary, then you should probably keep using she/her until she tells you to do something different. But if you're really that confused, you could ask. You can also always use they/them as a default when you're not sure, especially online.