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Was banned from [email protected] for calling out a Mod's misuse of the Egg prime directive to criticize trans people for helping out trans women in denial of their trans-ness. They're denying the validity of signs of being transgender, what the actual fuck, this shit is not okay. Then after banning me that dipshit locks the post so no one else can reply on it. How is this not power-tripping?
Modlog history for my account: https://discuss.online/modlog?userId=11993717
Yes, that is the bad part. You shouldn't be telling anyone that it's not normal to express their gender however they're expressing it. Even if you think it's for their own good.
If they literally do not know trans people exist or you're correcting stereotypes about trans people that's one thing, but if they do already know all that then... that's it, you don't need to do anymore. People need to take it at the pace they need to take it at, even if that pace isn't the pace you'd have taken it at. (Assuming they are trans and not just gender nonconforming.)
Looking back at your own behavior as a child or teen and seeing how it was an expression of you being trans is absolutely fine, and so is wishing it had gone differently. But you can't project those wishes onto other people.
But it isn't exactly normal is it? I mean most boys don't like to act and dress like girls, they don't play as girls in games, grow long hair. For most people these would be considered signs of being the other gender or being NB.
Also I get what you're saying about people going their own pace but you have to understand that people waiting too long to figure out that they are trans can be detrimental to their chances of passing and therefore their mental health. Some people kill themselves because it feels hopeless when transitioning later and I know the feeling. It sucks that my voice will probably never pass without surgery. If I had broken the egg as early as possible and began transition then, I would perfectly pass right now, even if I'd waited until I was 18 I would've still been better off than I am now.
I don't see how playing girls in games means anything? I play girls in games because I'm straight and girls are cute and I like to look at cute things.
So you think girls are so cute you wanna be one? Are you still sure that you're entirely cis buddy 🥚
I don't want to be one...I like to look at them, there's a reason I only play as girls in 3rd person games XD.
There's lots of reasons people might play girls in any games, question is are those the real reasons or are you in denial that you might actually want to be a girl deep down inside and not know it 😏