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I try not to. In an abstract sense, porn is enjoying something that you desire without having to put in the effort to actually get it. It's fake, illusionary. When I look at porn it's because I'm in a weak state and just want that small dopamine rush. I started the NoFap community for me and people like me to quit this habit and become stronger people.
The nofap community is so weird to me. There's nothing inherently wrong with masturbation and abstaining from it does not grant you superpowers. The entire nofap culture seems rooted in pseudoscience and toxic masculinity. And I'm not trying to discount the struggle of people who develop unhealthy relationships with porn. That's a real thing. But the nofap mentality is just replacing one destructive behavior with a different one.
Honestly I partially see your point. Masturbation by itself isn't necessarily bad, but the problem many people have (myself included) is that porn/masturbation can start to replace the real thing and take energy from you. First it's a harmless activity, then a habit, then an addiction. And obviously we don't get superpowers, but the feeling of regaining your energy from something that's been draining it for so long is a very empowering feeling. And there's so much positivity around both porn and masturbating that we've gotten to the point where children, even just 8 years old, find porn randomly and start a spiraling journey into the addiction. This stuff is more powerful than people realize and it's doing a lot of harm.
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