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What is the appropriate way for men to romance women? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 month ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I have seen so many different approaches to dating be responded to by Lemmings as inappropriate or creepy, much of it hypocritical to other responses, but I digress: is there ANY appropriate way that everyone can agree on for men to approach having a relationship with women?

From the collective consciousness of Lemmy comments I have read, my impression is that the only appropriate thing is to be born into a marriage and never make any moves or even so much as look at a woman in your lifetime.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Honestly in today's landscape, (and i don't say this easily or lightheartedly), i seriously believe the best thing to do is to not make a move on women at all.

that is because most women (like all people) are constantly over-stressed (from work and other chores) and simply don't have the "energy" (mental energy) to date. so it doesn't amount to anything anyways.

if you really like someone and want to make a move on them anyways, today my best advice would be to tell them directly. wait till you spend a calm minute together and tell them "look i don't wanna be creepy but you look really cute and i wanted to ask you whether you'd go out with me sometimes".

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

In case you don't wanna go out (because you avoid noisy situations), you can also ask her to drink a tea with you.