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Hi, I 21/male have depression, ADHD and most likely also OCD.

No matter what happens I constantly think about the smallest things that they ruined my life and that I can't progress/let go of them without being perfect.

I destroy my whole life that way cause this always prohibits me from enjoying life because I always will find a thought and reason why I can't commit to life and enjoy it.

It could be the silliest thing like I can't follow my passion because someone criticized me or something.

Like if my brain constantly searches a reason for why something might ruin me.

I have this feeling of being unable to do stuff when something didn't work/turned out the way I wanted it to, like as if there is this barrier that paralysis me. I think that something I did (or someone else did) ruined my life and that I can never undo it anymore. And I have so much shame and regret over my actions.

I obsessively always see the worst of every little thing and it doesn't make any sense and mostly is completely unreasonable.

I'm wasting my whole life time and miss all the great life opportunities which I deeply regret.

Is there any way I can escape this toxic negative cycle that keeps me stuck in this overthinking?

Because it's like my brain constantly finds a reason to not do the stuff that would actually help me and take me forward.

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[–] Bell@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

My dad gave me "this too shall pass", and my brother taught me to be less fearful... I wish I could share them both with everyone.

Really and truely everything passes... Good and bad. But it's only when it's bad that you really need it. We all know this but just need to remember it.

And then not being afraid...I think we need to consider the worst - for a moment, but also only give it a brief consideration. Then we need to weigh the positives and maybe think on those a little longer. It sounds dumb but I hope you're hearing me.

Also can I say, don't be obsessed with labels for yourself. You're a unique person unlike any other, so no label like OCD or ADHD captures all that is you. Forget the labels.

[–] Lost_Soul@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

Love the advice! Thank you!

[–] Earflap@reddthat.com 1 points 1 month ago

this too shall pass

That shits my life's motto fr fr. Really helps to put things into perspective.