!egg_irl is for widely relatable memes about questioning one's gender or being an egg (a trans person in denial) as well as other eggy topics.
If you are looking for a place to discuss something specific to you or especially if you need help or are in crisis, we have communities and resources that can support you linked at the bottom of this sidebar.
General Rules:
No bigotry.
No spam, bots, or vote farming.
Rules on Content:
No reposts.
No personal-life posts, bingo cards, quizzes, selfies, "trans/not trans" lists, picrew, or non-memes.
No visible names or usernames.
Do not post or link to pornography.
Rules on Post Titles and Tags:
Posts must be titled "egg_irl". An emoji or two is OK, but they have to be between "egg" and "irl".
Posts that assume the viewer's gender and/or contain potentially triggering content must be spoilered and tagged at the beginning of the post title. Example content-warning tags that you can copy include the following:
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Transmasc][CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem][CW: Assumes Viewer is Nonbinary][CW: Transphobia][CW: Violence][CW: Weapons/Firearms][CW: Disturbing Imagery]You may optionally include other tags, such as:
[Transmasc Meme][Transfem Meme][Nonbinary Meme][Gender-Nonspecific Meme]Rules on Post Text:
If possible, include an image description for accessibility.
Add sources for art.
Rules on Comments
If a post is tagged with a specific gender identity, keep the conversation centered on that identity.
You must follow the Egg Prime Directive. You may not push or coerce people into identifying or not identifying a certain way. You must respect them as the gender they claim to identify as. In addition it is extremely in poor taste to make assumptions about other people's identities based on external factors, we understand it cannot be helped but it is best not to as it can affect the way you treat others in noticeable ways.
No Ewwphoria posts. Posts which contain misogyny, misandry, transmisogyny, transmisandry, or enbyphobia for the purpose of expressing euphoria are not allowed here. At best they bring anger to others, and at worst they may trigger people's dysphoria. People who create such posts will have them removed and may be banned at moderator discretion.
Recommendations:
We strongly encourage you to include your pronouns in your account bio so that others know how to refer to you without misgendering you. If you're questioning or unsure of your pronouns, that's totally cool—just say so.
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Community Resources:
How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.
Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Don't call people eggs, like ever, it's extremely uncool.
Yes, Firefox's dictionary sucks and makes words wrong. This idea of trying to root gender as a permanent, unchanging, or biologically ingrained thing, similar to the arguments of gayness being "in your genes" is bioessentialist. It attempts to validate the experience of being gay or trans by saying it's biological and unchanging, implying a strong importance in these aspects.
These studies almost always focus on gender dysphoria as the factor, it is my opinion that a lot of them often cater explicitly to transmedicalist viewpoints. That's how medicine is though, and I can't really fault them for doing this. What I can and will do though is to not welcome this discourse into trans-friendly spaces which are meant to be open to people who are exploring an/or don't fit the mold. In addition these studies seem to be THE argument against conversion therapy, when there is a better argument that doesn't reduce or invalidate genderfluidity as a trans identity like any other. Which is that trying to interfere with who a person is, and how they identify themselves. That's it. You don't need to biologically prove if someone is REALLY trans for something like this to be bad. Trying to change or force people to change who they are generally hasn't and will never be good for them. And I resent the implication that it could ever be okay very strongly.
I very much agree. Respectability politics really does not matter. Hating trans people isn't justified and people who hate trans people will use any reason, and if they don't have a reason, they'll just continue without one.
I agree that this is futile and frustrating, but that's likely because we fundamentally disagree on certain concepts. Like I do not agree there is merit to try and biologically define transgender as a brain condition. It oversimplifies the experience and contradicts with real world evidence. And also ultimately caters to the medical perspective of treating transgender as a medical condition. I don't think there is anything more to say here.