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There’s this guy I’m friends with (18M) and he flirts with all his friends and jokes around with them, except for me.

He certainly doesn’t hate me. He sits by me, talks to me, asks me questions, and smiles when he sees me. He also considers me a friend.

We were talking about foreign languages together, and he brought up that I want to learn their language to his family :)

He’s also in some Honors classes that I’m not in, so he helps me with the work, and I help him in return with English (literature).

Maybe it’s just awkward for him?

I should perhaps add that I don’t have many classes with him, and the classes I do have with him, I’m quite shy (but working on it). He also appears to have slight internalized homophobia with a religious family. (So he’s fine with LGBT but is homophobic towards himself and denies it.)

Obviously, he’s fine with making gay jokes and secretly dated a guy (only his friends knew) but he was very shy and discreet about it. I should probably also add that even though he usually flirts with his friends (because of this, some of his exes thinks he’s into them despite treating most people like this), he seemed to be more serious/shy and less flirty with his partners (especially the guy), with a shy “I love you” sometimes.

Despite me being nonbinary, I’m AMAB and therefore most people see me as male, though I’m not sure about him (I haven’t come out to him yet as im fine with any gender/pronouns but several people have referred to me with they or she and he was in the vicinity.)

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[–] voytek709 3 points 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Thanks, it has to be Options 1-3 then because he does flirt as a joke, like saying he’s gay, calling the guy friends his “boyfriend/hubby”, or saying “You’re so hot!/I’m gonna kiss you!!”

He holds the hands of usually men but sometimes women, smacks their butts, and calls the girls his “girlfriend/wifey” (with their consent obv)

Hopefully it’s not Option 3, I haven’t told anyone and tried not to make it obvious (especially by giving people the same amount of treatment as him rather than just spending time with him)