In my experience, people are weird. There are so many variables that no one outsider could possibly get it right based off the limited information we have. Off the top of my head we have: Option 1) he knows for a fact he doesn’t like you that way. Option 2) he treats you different because he DOES like you that way. Option 3) he treats you different because he knows you like him that way. Option 4) you are misunderstanding his “flirting” with others and he actually treats you all the same.
this post was submitted on 14 Feb 2025
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Thanks, it has to be Options 1-3 then because he does flirt as a joke, like saying he’s gay, calling the guy friends his “boyfriend/hubby”, or saying “You’re so hot!/I’m gonna kiss you!!”
Hopefully it’s not Option 3, I haven’t told anyone and tried not to make it obvious (especially by giving people the same amount of treatment as him rather than just spending time with him)
You're just gonna have to talk to him, I think.
It could be that he doesn't see you that way, and it will hurt if that's the case.
It could also be that he flirts to be silly and doesn't realize he's filtering that out with someone he would actually want to follow through with.
You can puzzle over it or you can take action and find out.
I can vouch for this as a dude. I only ever really flirt as a joke with people I'm not into. When I'm into someone I tend to ironically be less flirtatious with them.
Thanks! To be fair, I’ve known him for a while and I’ve never seen him flirt with anyone he’s been into
if no one sees this, try an advice community or an lgbt one (bisexual, lgbtq+, etc). like i said but i think u deleted it, he may not treat u like his other friends because he doesn’t view you as a friend ?
he seems to like u but idk if it’s platonic or not