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my gf is hardly ever online and prefers games (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends.

usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time.

is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.

(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I think it's not necessarily about what the both of you do, as it is about how you both feel about your relationship and each other. If you're both cool with doing your own thing and occasionally getting together, then you're fine. (Don't get sidetracked because "other couples are doing everything together", that's bullshit.)

However, if you do want more, or different than this, you really should talk to her about how you're feeling.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

i have, she says she’s sorry but then continues

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Okay, what I hear you saying is that you want more out of this relationship. More attention, more interaction, more time together, more connection. She, on the other hand, seems to be happy by herself and doesn't try to meet your needs, or just makes empty promises that she doesn't keep.

I don't think it can go on like that. You would forever have to live with your needs not being met, hoping for a change that doesn't come.