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After taking the boys grocery shopping yesterday I'm glad I get most of my groceries delivered. I remember spending Saturday mornings with my Mum at Coles where it takes 1-2 hours to do all the shopping. It feels like a quarter of your weekend is taken up with buying the things you need to survive work for the next week instead of enjoying your free time.
We would maybe go see one of the sets of grandparents whilst out, but that's not something the boys have to worry about here. The only grandparent they could regularly visit lives with them.
The only possible thing is you can go do your groceries at a larger shopping centre here. But I don't know when I'd let them roam free, and even those places lose their novelty pretty quick when they don't change and you have no money to buy anything.
You need to train them up so when they are old enough they can help instead of hinder the process. I was chief bargain spotter in our family, my sister and I took turns with exciting tasks like trolley return and of course we all worked to carry all the groceries in when we got home.
This is how it worked in my own family as well. Help with finding and loading/carrying/unloading items, spot bargains, especially stuff that isn't on that week's list but is a regular purchase. Sometimes we would then be rewarded with special treats. I don't know why but I really enjoyed it growing up, even though shopping is a bleah chore for me now.
I'll need to make it fun for them later on. Maybe insert a maths lesson there by getting them to figure out the unit price of products. Hanging around for an hour or so whilst we shop would get boring fast otherwise
If they can save money on the main groceries there will be money free to buy lollies. It was very motivational for me.
took mine solo over the weekend too. he was pretty good all things considered. But he is really reluctant to hold hands in the carpark which results in him cracking the shits and me having to peel him off the ground mid meltdown and carry him.
We'll usually carry the boys out of the carpark and they're pretty good from there. I think we've been able to teach them a bit of car safety and to be wary around roads. We've been working on teaching them carparks are roads too
When i was a kid my mum would park my ASD arse in front of the fresh orange juice squeezer. That thing (and the ice chips in the greenery displays) could keep me occupied for hours
Our shopping centre had a Donut King so you could have watched the satisfying process of a donut being made all the way through
The one at box hill? Man, they made the best custard eclairs
This was up in Griffith NSW but all Donut Kings had the donut maker on display
My son is 11, and I still would rather poke hot pins in my eyeballs than take him grocery shopping with me. Click and collect all the way! Although he will do a quick milk and bread dash with me but I can't cope with more than that.
I think we're lucky that going to the supermarket is still something new to them, especially going with the two of us. I've taken them plenty of time on the bike, so it's wrapped up in the whole experience of going for a ride together and doing something with dad