egg_irl — Memes about being trans people in denial and other eggy topics
!egg_irl
!egg_irl is for widely relatable memes about questioning one's gender or being an egg (a trans person in denial) as well as other eggy topics.
If you are looking for a place to discuss something specific to you or especially if you need help or are in crisis, we have communities and resources that can support you linked at the bottom of this sidebar.
General Rules:
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No bigotry.
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No spam, bots, or vote farming.
Rules on Content:
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No reposts.
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No personal-life posts, bingo cards, quizzes, selfies, "trans/not trans" lists, picrew, or non-memes.
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No visible names or usernames.
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Do not post or link to pornography.
Rules on Post Titles and Tags:
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Posts must be titled "egg_irl". An emoji or two is OK, but they have to be between "egg" and "irl".
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Posts that assume the viewer's gender and/or contain potentially triggering content must be spoilered and tagged at the beginning of the post title. Example content-warning tags that you can copy include the following:
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Transmasc]
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Transfem]
[CW: Assumes Viewer is Nonbinary]
[CW: Transphobia]
[CW: Violence]
[CW: Weapons/Firearms]
[CW: Disturbing Imagery]
[CW: Fictional Egging]
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You may optionally include other tags, such as:
[Transmasc Meme]
[Transfem Meme]
[Nonbinary Meme]
[Gender-Nonspecific Meme]
Rules on Post Text:
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If possible, include an image description for accessibility.
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Add sources for art.
Rules on Comments
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If a post is tagged with a specific gender identity, keep the conversation centered on that identity.
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You must follow the Egg Prime Directive. You may not push or coerce people into identifying or not identifying a certain way. You must respect them as the gender they claim to identify as. In addition it is extremely in poor taste to make assumptions about other people's identities based on external factors, we understand it cannot be helped but it is best not to as it can affect the way you treat others in noticeable ways. Read more about this decision here.
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No Ewwphoria posts. Posts which contain misogyny, misandry, transmisogyny, transmisandry, or enbyphobia for the purpose of expressing euphoria are not allowed here. At best they bring anger to others, and at worst they may trigger people's dysphoria. People who create such posts will have them removed and may be banned at moderator discretion.
Recommendations:
We strongly encourage you to include your pronouns in your account bio so that others know how to refer to you without misgendering you. If you're questioning or unsure of your pronouns, that's totally cool—just say so.
Sibling Meme Communities
- !traa (or search for https://lemmy.ca/c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns in your instance if the link doesn't work)
Sibling Non-Meme Communities
- !transgender (or search for https://lemmy.ml/c/transgender in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !trans (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/trans in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !ftm (and transmasc) (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/ftm in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- !mtf (and transfem) (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/mtf in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- [email protected] (or search for https://lemmy.one/c/nonbinary in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- [email protected] (or search for https://beehaw.org/c/lgbtq_plus in your instance if the link doesn't work)
- [email protected] (or search for https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/c/lgbtq_plus in your instance if the link doesn't work)
Community Resources:
- The Trevor Project / 1-866-488-7386 — A US-based crisis prevention and intervention hotline and community
- TransLifeLine / 1-877-565-8860 — A US-based trans peer support hotline
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible — An in-depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria
- Trans Resources — A directory of resources for trans, non-binary, and gender-non-conforming people
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory — A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers
- Trans Resistance Network — A US-based mutual-aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project — Advice about insurance claims for trans healthcare procedures
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library — A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document
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I... don't dig this. I get it, and I appreciate it might ring bells for people who've already trodden a similar path, but a person who identifies as a man identifies as a man, not a "man". Presuming and predicting other peoples' gender epiphanies or dysphoria feels quite close to misgendering.
Maybe I'm being over-sensitive?
It's also a post in a trans community, so it probably speaks to a lot of people's experiences. I didn't feel like it's rude, especially after thinking about it recontextualized from a political context. Like, what if someone made a meme about seeing leftist memes but they were really a "conservative" and that was posted in a leftist circle. It might just be me, but it doesn't seem rude either way because that would speak to me as someone in a circle like that.
I respect everything you've written, but the context of the screenshot is seeing someone comment in a general forum, who implicitly identities as cis-het, and publicly weighing the odds that they're a trans person who hasn't yet come to that realization. It feels presumptive in a way that doesn't sit right with me, though I'm not sure I can verbalize it better.
The best parallel I can draw is assuming that a stereotypically camp guy or that a girl who's a "tomboy" are gay. Yeah, the odds are weighted towards it somewhat, but extrapolating and going "oh ho ho, I know how this ends up" really feels disrespectful and assumptive in a way that feels parallel to misgendering.
Again, it's possible I'm reacting too strongly.
It is, and that's why we have the egg prime directive here.
Yeah, I questioned posting it in the first place because of the quotes, but I figured it was fine, since this is a sub for trans folks, who I figured would recognize the implication that it is in fact a trans woman whose egg is about to crack
You're not being oversensitive this post very much borders on Egg Prime directive violation.