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Buyer's remorse is such a strong taboo that it leads people to defend things in their lives which harm them. Can anything be done to start countering this? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Politics, making bad choices with votes, is mainly what I have in mind...but it's not limited to that. You see it with anything that requires a choice and a commitment of money, time, effort, etc. By and large people don't want to admit I made a bad choice and it's time to cut my losses.

Instead there is lots of rationalizing going on, and I think this leads people down paths they otherwise would not have gone, rinse repeat as things worsen. Small concessions to negative consequences build over time, and along the way the initial bad choices may be forgotten. Plenty of people can be swimming in the messes they made without ever a thought of changing their views.

It never helps to point out the degree to which a person has compromised themselves. That has to be done from within, and that's exactly what is missing.

I think all of this is a huge problem in the world today. But damned if I know what to do about it.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

There's almost nothing that can be done in a case of a voter who makes bad decisions. They'd have to learn to live with the consequences caused by their poor decision making. You can show them, you can educate them and you can rationalize with them all day. But, they just have to face the music. Which is what I believe anyone who voted for Trump is going to have to go through. They think voting for him will make their lives better when he's most likely going to make them struggle day after day if not put them out of whatever comfort zone that they once had.

They don't seem to register in their minds that voting for a bad leader is going to affect everyone involved, not just pick and choose what groups of people to affect.

The unfortunate part is someone had mentioned that it is a patience thing and it is all about time. It could be years for them to finally see whatever light there is to see that shine on the errors of their poor decision making. Quite frankly, I do not have all of the time in the world and I don't exactly know how much time I truly do have left, so I just brand them as hopeless and move on.