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What do you do when you get ghosted? (lemmy.ml)
submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]
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In a romantic relationship or otherwise. I'm being ghosted over a job, so I ask randos on the internet about what they do. WBY?

Edit: Thanks everyone for the advice I've been trying to follow. It helps having it reinforced. It's just hard for several reasons any of which would make it my top choice.

  1. It's in the city my sister lives in. I haven't lived near my family since I finished high school
  2. My job is inherently transient; I move every 1-2 years. This one gave me some permanency
  3. I've been doing the same thing for the last 10 years. This one gives me additional responsibilities
  4. It's prestigious and would come with higher pay

I'll be working on it, but like I said it's tough. It's almost like the universe gave me the perfect go fuck yourself.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)

You aren't entitled to a response if someone doesn't want to respond. Suck it up and move on.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago

Everyone deserves respect, provided they haven’t been a dick head.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 hours ago

I'm not sure I agree with this, unless OP did something offensive. I'm back in the dating world for the first time in nearly a decade, and with every match that goes poorly either I explain "I'm sorry, I don't see this going anywhere further but I wish you the best." or they do the same for me. The only instance of ghosting was when a man tried to SA me a few months ago.

Jobs you're applying to, as well, should send a response to your application even if it's just an automated generic email.