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What do you do when you get ghosted? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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In a romantic relationship or otherwise. I'm being ghosted over a job, so I ask randos on the internet about what they do. WBY?

Edit: Thanks everyone for the advice I've been trying to follow. It helps having it reinforced. It's just hard for several reasons any of which would make it my top choice.

It's in the city my sister lives in. I haven't lived near my family since I finished high school
My job is inherently transient; I move every 1-2 years. This one gave me some permanency
I've been doing the same thing for the last 10 years. This one gives me additional responsibilities
It's prestigious and would come with higher pay

I'll be working on it, but like I said it's tough. It's almost like the universe gave me the perfect go fuck yourself.

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 17 hours ago

A job (assuming it's one I've not already got): they don't want you, move on. It's the same thing as a rejection. You can chase up once but I don't see why bother more than once.

A person you're talking to romantically: check in on them, if they don't respond after messaging a few times over a few days it's deliberate and they're not interested. Move on. It probably wasn't that serious if they ghosted you, or if you're actually in a serious monogamous relationship and they ghost you then I'd either worry they've actually gone missing or something's happened to them, or they are just a massive asshole to not be able to actually break up with you properly.