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I honestly agree 100%. I support all my LGBTIQ+ people, but in an ideal world I really shouldn't need to. My support is purely there because there are people who actively want to hurt them, and for no other reason. Part of me worries that some of this support can come across as special treatment
Similarly, I wish people would stop bringing stuff like their sexuality/gender up without prompt, it just comes off as... self-centred, I guess? Bonus points if it's in their twitter handle
That being said, probably my best online friend was a trans girl (mtf). None of our conversations revolved around them being trans, we just played games and laughed together. Good times
I actually have a friend like that as well. We played a lot of games and participated in roleplay communities together. I didn't even know she was trans until one of her friends brought it up for some reason. My reaction was just kind, "Oh, neat, anyway."
I have a different friend who I knew before her transition who is a lot more vocal about such a thing, and while I do respect her decisions she definitely wears it as a badge of honor. A few months ago we were playing Minecraft with some of her friends, and I didn't know any of them.
One of them (to me) had a feminine name and a feminine voice, so when I was talking to my friend, I asked "Hey where did Zoey (example name) go? I need to give her some iron." And my friend immediately cut me off to correct me that he was a he, and that he was trans, with a very angry tone to her voice. I understand misgendering may be a problem... but how was I supposed to know? We're faceless voices across the internet, I know referring to everyone as they/them is 'safer', but that's a little ridiculous to me (Especially because I've met some people who -don't- want to be referred to with gender neutral pronouns)
I know that might sound hypocritical, that I don't think people should introduce themselves as trans or anything else, and that I shouldn't be villified for making an innocent misassumption. Having my cake and eating it too.
I would assume the goal of transitioning is for people to believe you are what you say you are, without the label of trans. I'd never have guessed that my rp friend was trans, and similarly if my friend had not told me their friend was trans, I would have just assumed he was a feminine guy, and not a trans man.