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‘There were no warning signs’: what happens when your partner falls into the ‘manosphere’?
(www.theguardian.com)
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Unfortunately, “the man-o-sphere” also lumps in those men who just want to be left alone to their own devices, who - for whatever reason - have gone their own way and don’t want to participate in what they see as a negative-sum game that is tilted - almost hilariously so - against men. Many to most of them aren’t misogynistic in the least, they just don’t want anything to do with women. As is their right.
Because just as a man don’t deserve a woman purely because he’s a man, the same also works in reverse: a woman don’t deserve a man just because they are a woman. There are many women who demand that men leave them alone, but then get all offended AF if a man turns down her attentions. That it is somehow misogynistic for any man to refuse the needs and attentions of a woman.
Sorry, but “equality” doesn’t work like that - it only works equally in both directions.
Lol, my dude. The only way you could possibly think this is if you already subscribe to the alternative facts explained to you by the "man-o-sphere".
The vast majority of power is still being held by men. Most law makers are men, most of the wealth is held by men, most of the police, the judges, the prosecutors.....all mostly men.
It's almost like being attracted to someone is contextual......
Who is claiming this?
Nobody cares if your want to go your own direction. It's only an issue to anyone if you're a dick about it.
For reals. No one gives a shit about my doings. If I climb on a soapbox with a megaphone and scream at passers-by the editorial of my doings, and condemn then for not having a like mind or interests, I'd expect a more hostile reception to my doings. There's a pretty easy line to see, there is a pretty easy choice to make, and for those who've chosen otherwise, we've gone beyond "man-o-sphere" and out into the oort cloud of "quasi similar simian". Not feeling a whole lot of kinship to that.