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[–] [email protected] 3 points 6 days ago

Um... anything? I ask people for help all the time. And then they help me and are happy to do so. People like helping other people. However, I've discovered that they don't like:

Having all their suggestions shot down without due consideration.
When the person they are helping isn't putting in much effort.
When the person they are helping considers their help worthless.
When they are the only person the person they are helping is calling for help.
When the person they are helping always complains about things, but never appreciates the progress they've made, the help they've received, or the options they have.

Helping a friend and seeing them succeed is one of the best feelings in the world. Trying to help someone and seeing them flounder because they refuse to listen to sound advice and do the obvious but difficult work is a shitty feeling.