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[–] [email protected] 11 points 23 hours ago (4 children)

I suppose it'll require some modification of the current toilets. And they aren't few(toilets, I mean). Overall, the "problem" is hugely exaggerated. A toilet is a toilet.

[–] floofloof 23 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (3 children)

Can anyone cite a single instance of it being problematic when a trans woman used the women's toilet or a trans man used the men's? Has this ever actually caused trouble? Because it seems the UK Government is bending over backwards to appease bigots over entirely imaginary, and probably not even genuine, fears.

And can these politicians not see how it will be problematic for very feminine trans women to be using men's toilets and very masculine trans men to be using the women's? Will anyone feel more comfortable that way?

[–] [email protected] 25 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

I looked it up on a quick online search, the only actual problems I found were trans women being harassed (in at least one case, even police was called on her), often by men.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 18 hours ago

Sometimes it's been butch cis women being accused of "being a man".

Hate and bigotry really break people's minds, it's sad to see.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Has this ever actually caused trouble?

Technical trouble? Of course not. But socially -- all the time. Most people, for some reason, think that the toilet sex division is important. Try to enter the wrong door and you'll see it by yourself. While men mostly don't mind if a woman runs in man toilet, women can be really angry at men running into theirs.

Why? I don't know.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 23 hours ago

Once, our classroom (early teens) had to get changed in a large, shared changing area for a swimming pool. One of those clingy volunteering mothers walked around, pointing out where we didn't dry wel enough, touching, "helping" boys etc. But, she had two boys of her own and "there was nothing she hadn't seen before". Very uncomfortable.

Somehow I don't think it would be accepted for me to walk into little girls changing saying "don't worry, it's nothing I haven't seen before".

Same for those cleaning ladies cleaning right behind me while taking a piss in a urinal. It feels weird.

Oh well, we're just men, right? So who cares?

[–] floofloof 5 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (1 children)

While men mostly don’t mind if a woman runs in man toilet, women can be really angry at men running into theirs.

If that were the rationale, it would make no sense to rule that trans women must use the men's toilet and trans men must use the women's. That's a recipe for exactly the discomfort you describe.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 21 hours ago

Dingdingding, this is exactly why this shit is transphobic.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

There have been instances of serial child predators claiming to be trans as a defense when caught exposing themselves to kids in women's locker rooms and such, but laws never stopped rapists, so it's irrelevant.

Fox News likes to frame it as liberals giving them permission to do so, though.

[–] floofloof 4 points 19 hours ago

Yes, the response to a child predator who says "But I'm trans!" should be "So what?" It's irrelevant to the matter of trans rights, as you say.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 23 hours ago (4 children)

Why would it require modifications to toilets? Except for pissoirs toilets are not gendered. And IMHO, pissoirs should be vanished anyway, they're disgusting. But technically, all genders can use any restroom (I haven't seen any pissoir-only restroom yet).

[–] [email protected] 5 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

In a museum near me you had two doors:
men <--> women

for a few years they replaced the signs
3x U + 1x T <--> 3x T

Where U is an icon for urinals and T is an icon for a regular toilet. Everybody understand this. But then again, art museums attract more progressive people than conservative people so I can imagine if they did this in a school for example it'd be different.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 21 hours ago

Pissoirs are great because of the huge through put, women/girls should be taught to use FUDs to use them too.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 23 hours ago

on a tangent: I always feel like crap when the stalls are occupied and the last resort is taking the disgusting pissoir.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Why exactly are wall potties disgusting? If anything it helps prevent lazy douchebags from pissing all over the toilet seats.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Well, first, no toilet paper. Nobody wipes their wiener, so everyone stains their undies, and I personally find urine stained undies disgusting.
But also, splashing a liquid with an adequate amount of pressure against a hard surface will result in backsplashes. Not a lot of pressure is needed though, so more urine stains everywhere. That effect is drastically reduced when sitting down on a toilet.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Um, that's why guys shake it a bit before stowing it, hence the "if you shake it more than three times you're playing with it." I can honestly say I don't dribble all over my undies cause I make sure it's empty, kinda like a fuel pump nozzle. And any guy with half a brainstem has figured out how to find the right angle to not back spray themselves (hint: most urinal manufacturers put a small graphic low in the bowl as a kind of target to minimize back spray, knowing guys like to aim their stream at things).

Good luck getting guys to sit on the toilet to pee. Aside from it being a faux pas for whatever stupid reason, it's generally a waste of time when we can walk up to either a urinal or toilet, unzip and whiz, zip up, wash, and go. Most guys have managed to make it an efficient and clean process for a very long time and that isn't going to change anytime soon. Sorry, but this is pretty silly.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

that's why guys shake it a bit before stowing it

That's not enough. In german, there's a saying: "Es hilft kein SchΓΌtteln und kein Tropfen, in die Hose geht der letzte Tropfen.β€œ Meaning "It doesn't help to shake or knock, the pants will catch the final drop".

And any guy with half a brainstem has figured out how to find the right angle to not back spray themselves

I've seen enough public restrooms to know that it's not enough guys.

Good luck getting guys to sit on the toilet to pee.

That's easy. Stop telling young boys it's "unmanly" to sit down.

I find urinals to be disgusting, and your excuses won't change that.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

All the anti-perspirant in the world won't prevent some amount of sweat getting into someone's shirt, is there really that much of a difference for an article of clothing worn for a day at most?

Like, do you think everyone with a penis should wipe their tip after every piss?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 13 hours ago

Apparently, because that miniscule amount of wee that might get on the inside of one's shorts is that nastiest, worse than the poo particles that get trapped in the same region when someone farts.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

As a man I don't give a shit who is peeing beside me but I understand that women do. A single bathroom with lots of floor to celling stalls with no huge American puritanical anti-privacy gaps and a separate area out of view for urinals would solve the problem. Sit down, stand up, whatever floats your boat. Keep your genitals out of view, wash your hands, and the problem is solved.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Historically the women got their own room because when nobody else is in that shared space it can be used like a dark alley or some bushes etc. I'm all for ungendered toilets but women's safety is a serious concern, especially in places like clubs. The biggots usually don't for keeping women safe, but their argument is valid.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, that's the problem. It isn't the trans women who are often more abused that cis women. The problem is the "alpha male" incel assholes.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 22 hours ago

And they are not only the problem in this situation. The fact they are barely mentioned in the discussion about toilets says a lot about what actually matters to the people making a fuss about the safety of (trans)woman in public bathrooms.

[–] floofloof 3 points 23 hours ago

A little bit of investment to make society more humane. Seems worth it.