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Lord those are particularly bad experiences I'm sorry you went through that. I see it differently but I understand your point of view
It's the reason the message gets put on profiles, rightly or wrongly ... sorry.
If you're serious then message them authentically anyway (maybe mention that you're single and serious about a real relationship), 95% won't care that you're bi and the remaining gold star lesbians are insufferable anyway ;-)
Just to be real, if a profile says no bi girls, anyone who is coming into things authentically is just going to respect that (or not want a partner who is okay with biphobic sentiments like that) and simply not message. Anyone you're trying to exclude is not reading that far.
No mate it's not that, it's just that I do a lot of voluntary work in the community and I've seen the impact on bi people. Plus my own beliefs are we all have to stand together as a community. I've had truly awful experiences with 2 bi partners though so I do get it. Including the classic bi stereotype of cheating on me with a man...
Duly noted ... and yes, the community should stick together. But. When it comes to personal choices of who to engage with with a view to forming an intimate bond, then people have to be able to set their own parameters.
I understand your perspective 😊