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Not even remotely true. Reminder that Trump won white women voters in 2024.
Abuse towards women is unfortunately so normalized by society that I bet most of those women don't realize how much they have been manipulated since childhood to be against their own autonomy, especially if they grew up in a religious environment.
It's possible that women of minority demographics voted more blue because some realized how anti-(their specific minority) republicans are but, just like the white women, weren't put off by republicans' misogyny.
Abuse towards women is far less acceptable than abuse towards men.
In fact, violence against men is almost universally either celebrated or outright ignored.
For example: for non-reciprocal, physically violent domestic violence, ≈70% of all victims are men. And yet, who does the Duluth Model demand to have arrested and held responsible for DV? 100% the man.
Many police precincts still run software that has the perp hard-coded as male, and the victim hard-coded as female, further complicating attempts by men to receive justice and severely skewing government statistics. It took until 2015 for the FBI to even admit that men can be DV victims (federal stats prior to that year recorded only female victims), and both the FBI and CDC explicitly block any and all funding into investigating anything surrounding male DV victims, preferring to propagate the impression that DV is almost always a male-on-female issue.
And the societal brainwashing of “women cannot be physically violent abusers” has gotten so bad that most male survivors of DV will openly argue that they weren’t abused, especially if they are still in the relationship.
TL;DR: the majority of the problem is NOT where society and gender ideology claims it is.