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Just bought box wine the other day cuz I knew I had to have a super uncomfortable conversation that could not be avoided and I needed to be anaesthetized for it

It worked and I know in retrospect I really needed it to be that way

Edit/Update: person I had convo with just texted me and apologized for combativeness and I mutually apologized for not dealing with it sooner and we're along and on to solution mode. The system works, please dont drink if you dont have too but dont forbid yourself from using a tool to improve your situation and try to always be honest. The less you lie or hide, the less influence you will have to unnecessarily drink

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[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yes, millions of people for thousands of years have done something like this. It's called liquid courage for a reason. I used to give myself exact small doses of alcohol to loosen up my introversion before social situations. If your job depends on it, it's basically a performance enhancer.

Not promoting alcoholism here, despite what I'm sure lots of comments will say. Personally, I barely drink at all anymore because it's gotten really hard on my body. Just giving a different viewpoint. There's so much addict pearl-clutching in here. Plenty of people can and do use drugs and alcohol responsibly. If you "don't need" them, great. If responsible doses help you live better, great.

[–] Coolbeanschilly 3 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Given the fact that they said they need the equivalent of FOUR bottles of wine to have an uncomfortable conversation, it's a red flag.

You're right, many people can consume things in moderation, but when you see warning signs like that, warning them isn't a form of pearl clutching so much as "dude, be careful."

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 hours ago

I think most people wouldn't be able to have ANY conversation after four whole bottles of wine. I certainly wouldn't.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I mean, did they say they consumed a whole box of boxed wine? Or just that they bought one? Could have also been on of those cartons that is the equivalent of about 2 glasses.

[–] Coolbeanschilly 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Generally speaking, when I've seen someone speak about a box of wine, it's the 3L one, not the smaller ones.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] Coolbeanschilly 3 points 1 day ago

Yeah, I'm aware of these. I was speaking of the big boxes, not the ones like this.

I just hope that OP doesn't go down the same ruinous path that I did. Compared to where I was in my fifteen year journey with Alcohol Use Disorder, I was at about year four. Where I would drink in order to relax and be able to socialize with others.

An over reliance on a substance to ease a social situation (no matter the reason), is a potential crossroads that can lead further down the path of abusing said substance.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago

If they drank the whole damn thing that night, then agreed, that's a red flag. OP didn't say that though. Maybe they can clarify.