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This is how you become an alcoholic.
AUD
A box of wine is a large amount. Do you drink in order to be able to socialize in all ways?
I bought and started on it, haven't finished it haha
When did you buy it, and how long ago? I'm asking, because I'm seeing my old patterns for forcing social interaction.
I have regular like daily light hearted interaction with them, just had a couple old matters I had to settle and come clean about and it was fine just tense
Yes, that's not necessarily bad in and of itself. But there's a difference between having one or two glasses and consuming half a box. I'm just wondering where you're at.
Better now that I got it out of the way. Omissions (like lies) compound like interest mentally
This is good, I'm glad you eased tensions with them. May I ask how much you drink on a daily basis? Only if you desire to share.
The reason why I'm being so persistent with this is because when I started voicing concerns to my "friends" about my alcohol consumption (when I still had something of a handle on it), they said "nah, you're fine." They just wanted someone to party with, they didn't want to deal with my concerns.
Now that I'm on the other side of alcoholism, I just want to be that voice for someone else, because it looks like you're asking the same question in a roundabout way.
"Am I drinking too much?" is you warning yourself and seeking help, at least in my experience. Even if you don't share how much you're having, if you're feeling concerned about it, please talk with someone in person who you know cares, and will take your concerns seriously.
Zero daily, its more episodic in terms of when i need to handle the occasional overwhelming thing like that
When it's dealing with uncomfortable situations, do you need to binge it, like have more than a few?
That's a form of binge drinking. Once again, I'm just giving you the information. I'm not trying to make the choice for you. Please just take my words into account. I believe that you're in control and can make your own decisions with this.
Too hard
Would you care to clarify?
You don't become an alcoholic for a single episode. I get US and EU are very different when it comes to alcohol consumption, but if OP would see alcohol as the only way to manage all of his problems, ok, it's dangerous, but if he reckon this is a one of a kind solution, it's just a bad choice
If you've read my comment history with OP, I was voicing my concerns because that was part of how it started for me. Thankfully I'm on the other side of alcoholism now. I just know that if someone is asking a question showing concern for their drinking, I will speak up and voice concern.
I'm not attempting to take away any agency, I just wish someone had actually said something to me rather than downplaying my concerns. I may have not fallen down the rabbit hole, because I still had a handle on it then.