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Telling you that you're too sensitive is a classic move by manipulative people, including parents, leading people to believe that they're overly sensitive. If your gut is telling you that something is wrong, it likely is.
Okay but as a person who is really sensitive, sometimes it really is a matter of how you're reacting and not what the other person is doing.
Being sensitive and being led to believe that you're too sensitive are not mutually exclusive. I grew up an abusive environment, and being able to quickly tune in on the moods of the adults around me saved me from plenty of beatings. Unfortunately, I also experienced a lot of emotional invalidation, including repeatedly being told I was "too sensitive". This not only gives the abusers a free pass, it grooms you for abuse by others, as you tend to doubt your own feelings. It wasn't until I learned about facial microexpressions that I was able to recognize the basis for my intuitive "gut" feelings - I have an almost superhuman ability to read people, undoubtedly because I learned this as a child as a way to protect myself from my parents. So yes, I am "sensitive," but I've learned to trust my instincts, which are almost always 100% right at picking up on an off "vibe".