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For me, it's more like:
My social battery has been dead for a while and I can't moderate my behavior enough to get new people to put up with my bullshit.
Mucho self-aware. ๐
That's why I hate the insertion of "mindfulness" into every type of self-help.
Motherfucker, did it ever occur to you that my hyper-awareness of shit is part of the cause of my problems?
it's a statistical phenomenon. for 99% of the people, the problem is a lack of awareness, so they think it's that way for everyone.
And that's an availability problem. The advice you see most is directed at the general population, and therefor generic. If you want advice tailored to your specific context, you have to request and pay for it.
Awareness is only one part of mindfulness, you already got that, which is great.
The other part is equanimity, being aware of things, but not reacting or judging.
When you practice mindfulness, try to set a time goal of how long you want to do it and stick to it no matter what. If there are suddenly loud noises, or you suddenly feel very hungry, or you suddenly remember something important for work, just stick with the time you set. It'll get easier over time.
Doing it frequently definitely helps with hyper-vigilance and being overly aware of things.
Sometimes mindfulness is more of a soft awareness. Not really thinking or knowing about anything in particular.
I also don't like how it's used, because I have the same problem as you describe. It reminds me of trying to maintain a stoic perspective, being non-intellectually aware of sensations in your body, and trying to focus on what you can control.