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Lemmy Instances can disable downvotes (I added this a while back), but I personally really like downvotes.
FB, twitter, youtube, all either don't have them, or removed them, with reddit one of the last sites willing to keep a
dislike
action.But also, why does a downvote need an explanation, but an upvote doesn't? If someone doesn't want to tell you why they like / dislike your comment, they shouldn't have to.
Because the downvote is for me like criticism. Something is obviously wrong with the thing and i want to know why. I want to learn from it and understand whether i should adapt my behavior or not. And this decision is only possible when i know the reason for every downvote.
Also, because upvotes are harder to explain. Usually there all something like "interesting, hand't thought about this before". When you have 20 upvotes, they are probably all very similar.
However, for downvotes it is different. You can downvote things because of:
etc. So many different reasons to downvote. All of them are important to me.
For me downvotes are a feedback system. So i can differentiate good articles from ones with errors.
But what should i do with this feedback? What if its because of bias, stereotypes? and the person is not interested in participating in the debate?
i find something that makes online discussions more fun and less frustrating is to learn to just accept the downvotes.. sometimes they make you want to lash out and say, "hey wtf did i say, do you not agree? if not why not!?" but at the end of the day.. just relax.. they are just internet points.. it's a lot more relaxing to just see the number, and say to yourself.. "damn.. guess i misstepped on that one somehow.. oh well".. and just move on. like the above poster says, no one actually owes you an explanation, after all. just remember that downvotes are part of the game, they are going to happen, and try not to let it get to you.
also, i'll add, sometimes you want to own those downvotes.. sometimes it's okay to have a dissenting opinion, and you should learn to role with that. "20 downvotes, i hit a nerve I guess, but fuck it I'm right and I'm sticking with what i said." I feel like going out after a bad-ass comment and asking for downvote explanations just takes away from any solid position you were trying to take.
shout out to lemmy for not having aggregate comment karma