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I saw a lot of civil people that got "dunked on", both in here and by hexbear users in other instances
I think there is a point to arguing with unreasonable people in the internet, because other people are watching, and if you are the one remaining calm when another person is being unreasonably mean or denigrating it gives a convincing aura and vibe. Of course it's not really pleasant to do though I do understand that
Being civil isn't the issue. Participating with intent to actually listen and learn is.
This is exactly the point I am making. You think we should respond nicely to people who are NOT participating in good faith, just because they're being """"civil"""". I'm not wasting my fucking time with people who clearly aren't open to hearing what I have to say. There are people who ARE open to hearing what I have to say and they get a genuine response, with sources, and a conversation, and things are learned.
Libs can't tell the difference between each other and the literal actual fascists around them and it's infuriating. Which comes from incredible levels of political illiteracy and deferring all of their opinions and political education to media owned by billionaires.
No that is not what I'm saying... I'm actually talking about being nice to people not civil at all. If your aim is to convince, its useful to be calm and respectful regardless of how rude or disingenuous the other person is, because in the internet other people may be watching the debate and that way of behaving is a lot more convincing than if you're rude in return. Bad faith isn't the same as rude, though they often happen at the same time...
Please calm down, I wasn't telling you to do anything... I even said that it's not a pleasant thing to do. Just that convincing-wise it's better in my experience, but it's okay and understandable if you don't want to bother. I'd still disengage with the bad faith person instead of being snarky to them though. You yourself admit people are more swayed by flavour and attitudes than anything in debates so having a bad attitude will just at best make you two look bad
I think you read swearing as yelling when it's a different register as often as it is a different tone.