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I feel defeated and hopeless (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I know ive made post like this before, but I really do feel pretty defeated, I just dont look anything like my selfies to others, I look pretty awful to be honest, I weight 200 lbs and its been a struggle to loose weight, I know the solution is to see a dietation, and only stock my home with healthy foods and go to the gym maybe but the truth is I can't really afford that and I dont feel like I can really cook until I move since my mom is kinda defensive over the kitchen. Ive struggled with binge for a while and I just look at photos other people take me and want go vomit, I look so awful. I look like zero months hrt dispite a bit over two years of hrt. My selfies only look okay cause of angles. People have also tried to convince my male fat will redistribute but I know that isn't true and that it will stay until I get rid of it. Also I apologize for the grammer in this post, I'm writing this as I'm about to mentally explode.

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I know the solution is to see a dietation, and only stock my home with healthy foods and go to the gym maybe but the truth is I can't really afford that

You don't need a dietician to do the second part and you don't need a gym membership to work out.

I was 210 pounds a few months ago. Now I'm 190 pounds. All I've changed is eating less fast food. If you're otherwise healthy it really is as simple as reducing calories.

If your mom is otherwise supportive, you should just tell her that you need to change your diet, both for your physical and mental health. If she doesn't respect that, you should, if it's safe, apply pressure.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like its more of paranoia than anything, I'm 21 I can cook for myself just she kinda worries a ton about basic thing like fires lmao. To be fair another problem is I haven't exactly had many ideas for low calories meals. It might get better once I can drive myself to get things.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

This is basically where I'm at, like, Mom and I wanna change diets and its medically necessary for her and simply healthier for me, but I am given more of the work. Shopping at the store myself can be helpful, but she mostly buys what we need. We have like a dozen cookbooks about eating more greens and beans or "healthier". We have three slow-cookers. I know I could fill them up but she does most of the cooking... I'm just being asked to do so many things. I hate the gym, btw. I don't like walking at the park either but I've never had an issue. People who walk at a local park nowadays are friendly or at least kind.