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I look okay in selfies, but in photos other people take of me I look like a different person, example here
1st photo, a not perfect but generally okay selfie in my book
https://imgur.com/a/AJvseNr
2nd Photo, a photo taken by family, a photo I hate.
https://imgur.com/a/EioFHIN
Aw, I think you are being too hard on yourself. The second photo is classic family photo layout (weird lighting, standing against a wall). But even in that one you have a cute face and really nice hair. You look like a perfectly nice person I would talk to at an event. :)
Losing weight is hard and takes time. And we all come in different sizes and shapes. I've been trying to focus on being healthy instead and reframe my mindset. Like, I'm going to take a walk or move every day because that is a really kind thing to do for my mental health and body versus I'm so fat and I need to suffer because I ate calories. Or, I'm going to learn some new recipes because I love my guts and want to give them nutrition. I don't know. It's not magic, but I think it's helping. Maybe worth a try.
Yeah your right it is hard. I guess I am always worried I am gonna miss out on progress.
I hear you. I read atomic habits a few years ago (not a plug, but I think it's a good book), and the author talked about building new habits and getting 1% better at something. And if you aim for that every day, it will compound over time to something much bigger. Some days you can take on the world. Other times showing up and doing one thing toward your goal is enough. As long as you are putting in the effort, that slow progress still counts (even if it feels frustratingly slow).
Yeah nah you look great in both photos! Everybody can look better from certain angles over others, but trust me as a random outside observer you look good in both photos :)