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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Are you saying it's okay to hold this one dude responsible for all of the "patriarchy"? Lol.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

what do you mean by "holding him responsible" in this context

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I don’t think they are. I think they’re saying that the patriarchy is to blame for the awkwardness around rejection, and therefore the cause of the blunder. As in like, the boy was collateral damage.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Exactly. They were insinuating that the person turned this guy down awkwardly and disrespectfully because of the "patriarchy", whatever that means. The person being turned down was mistreated because of the other person's misconceptions and preconceptions. Theres another term for that, but you can only lead a horse to water.

Alternatively, a simpler explanation is that the person who sent the text is just a douche bag, and didn't care about this person's feelings and wasn't brave enough to let them know three or more unwanted advances prior.