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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/HoneycombHips on 2024-01-18 13:43:36+00:00.
I (25F) am getting married next month. My brother and SIL have a 5 year old daughter, Emma. They assumed Emma would automatically be the flower girl in my wedding.
The issue is thta I have asked my best friend's daughter Hannah (6F) to be the flower girl instead. Hannah's mom is my maid of honor and she is like family to me.
When I told my brother and SIL that Hannah will be the flower girl, they got really upset. They said I'm choosing friends over family and breaking their little girl's heart by not giving her this special role.
I tried to explain that I've known Hannah her whole life too and it's a sweet full circle moment to have her in the wedding. We have a very sepcial connection that I don't have like this with Emma, even though I love Emma too. But my brother said I'm a selfish aunt and setting a bad precedent in our family. Now they don't want Emma involved at all.
My parents think I should have just let both girls be flower girls to keep the peace. Which I thought was a cool idea and I initially didn't think of that.
When I told my brother and SIL that this would be great, they declined and said they don't want her to do it anymore at all.
AITA?