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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Ill-Lie8735 on 2024-01-18 14:54:47+00:00.
I (15F) am in sophomore year. Sophomores get one elective, and mine was French.
I was working on our 1st assignment, a collage about popular trends amongst teenagers and rehearsing for the presentation. My mom aggressively knocks the door and opens it saying we need to talk. I say okay but please be quick because I have to continue rehearsing (my presentation would've been later on in the day and we only have a 30 minute lunch break at school). She then proceeds to ask if I had been having any problems with anybody at my school. I then calmly state no, and she proceeds to tell me why she was asking.
She dreamt that she saw my classmate Nina at the grocery store. Nina said hello then mom said hello back. Mom then asked if I had been having any problems at school and Nina told her "yes, with a girl." She felt that the dream was trying to tell her something.
This was reminiscent of a situation from my past when I was in 6th grade. There was a new boy, Tanner, who transferred to our primary school because he allegedly got kicked out of his old school for fighting (Nina said so). Tanner was skinny, blonde, white, blonde hair and blue eyes and he thought he was better than others because of his physical appearance. I had been his new target because of my larger weight and good grades. We got in a physical fight where he kicked me and I got bruises and I chased him. He would also give me dirty looks in class whenever I was picked over him to answer a question and get it right. I didn't tell anybody about the problems I had for the whole year but Nina was a witness.
Nina's family and my family were good friends (we went to same primary since kindergarten), and in July after the school year ended we all went on a beach trip together. Nina ended up spilling the beans after my mom interrogated her about what had been going on with the bruises. My mom and older sister were furious at me for not telling them the truth about the bruises. The fact that Nina told them and not me is still something that is brought up to this day. They still won't let me forget it to this day as they said because what I did was so terrible and disgusting and broke their trust in me as I would tell them that everything was fine and lie about how I got my bruises.
Tanner lives near us in the same neighborhood but thankfully attends a different high school and works at the nearby grocery store so my mom sees him there sometimes.
I felt really bad about what I did and I still feel so much guilt about it to this day. I felt so sad hearing my mom talk about her dream. However, I also felt that my education was important, as learning a new language can be a good asset for jobs. I tried compromising saying I was sorry but I can't talk right now but I could talk more about it after school and she screamed at me that I was a selfish heartless wicked bitch with no remorse for what I did. Sis defended mom. AITA?