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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Impressive-Fun123 on 2024-01-18 15:44:05+00:00.
My sister (29) was a nightmare growing up. That is a fact and my parents did not handle her well. She was 16 when they gave up and sent her to a camp, it was horrible for her. The moment she was 18 she left and was on her own. She hasn’t been in contact with them since.
A few years ago we got back into contact and she is much better. In a much better place and we have been slowly reconnecting. I am engaged and my wedding is this year. I sent her an invite and she gave me a call. She asked if our parents will be there and I told her yes. This is where we got in an argument, she wants me to not invite them or she won’t show. That they were horrible to her and how dare I invite them.
My argument was they have treated me well and it’s not my fault they sent her away. Also she was pretty feral as a kid but I don’t hold that against her. We went on for a while but in the end I told her if she can’t handle seeing our parents to not come.
She hung up and thinks I am being a jerk.
Edit: since this has been asked multiple times, yea my parents tried therapy. My brother is no contact with her due with the extreme bullying she put him through as kids. The camp was a minor reform camp.
Also another point, when she was sent away obviously my parent don’t know these camps were awful. They were advertised to helping kid, a safe place to help kids when parents can’t figure it out.
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