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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/popcornstuffedbra on 2024-01-18 16:07:16+00:00.
My husband (40m) has been a snowboarder most of his life. He really wanted me (40f) to join him, so I agreed to try this season.
I booked myself private lesson to ski and it went great. The following week my husband suggested a place with an easy trail. I agreed and he purchased my lift ticket and rental gear.
We went and it was hard but fun. He was very supportive and stayed by my side while I skied (and fell) down the hill.
Today (4 days later) as he's leaving for work he asked when I would Venmo him for my ticket and gear. I was surprised because he had offered to buy my ticket. I paid for my first lesson and rental/lift ticket and I would have paid for this too, so I'm surprised he just didn't say something before.
I told him I'm sorry, but I don't understand. He texted me and asked, should I get tickets for us? I thought since he offered, he was buying. He said he was buying it for me but, "after opening my credit card bill this month, it would be helpful."
We split our finances, but often treat one another and have never kept tabs before. I was a little pissed but whatever.
Then a few hours later he sent a text with a copy of the receipt so I would see my portion of the bill. I guess it was a nudge, so I took the hint and Venmo'd $150 right away.
Then he sent a text - "umm it was actually $150.99".
Dude, what the fuck?!? I said, you offered to pay, now you want me to pay for what I considered a gift. So I did, but you're going to be petty over 99 cents???
It's been a few hours and he hasn't responded. So, am I the AH for assuming gifts are free?