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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Happyisastate on 2024-01-19 03:18:22+00:00.
I set up a nonprofit club . Donated money to it just cos I could . I had a prodigy student “X” who was ok to start with … loved competing and winning and did win most of the times . The club paid for the X’s interstate travels and other fees for competitions as X was representing our club.No other clubs did that . I had . X turned into a moody, teary arrogant&entitled teenager. The mother of X’s did not tell me of any of the mental problems student “x” was having .X would come to class have a cry before the class,Not say hello to anyone or not smile. Everyone else would chitchat ,laugh play around and X would not participate. X would sometimes offer to help with my kids class which I let … but then X would undermine me and contradict me . And so I said I was fine when help was offered again in the future. Plus I couldn’t handle student X’s moods .
After three years, they decided to get extra help from another club and teacher to get better at comps which i didn’t mind … but then 2023 starts and they sent me a message instead of calling … saying X didn’t want to attend my adults&teens class anymore, but wanted to help out with my children’s class . X will do online class with the other club instead .
I would have been fine if they said they didn’t want to be part of my club anymore … but to say “we don’t think your class is good enough for me anymore but X wants to teach instead and still be part of the club and keep reaping the Benefits of getting a expenses paid for for the comps “ . X isn’t 18 … doesn’t have a coaching license and wants to teach . Hmmmff . That infuriated me . I just said I didn’t need help in teaching my kids ..more or less goodbye then .
Apparently Student X(&mom) were very upset … but they are doing well with the other online club I think . I still see them around and still say hello .
I’m new at this and not good at reading people or not taking things personally. I put lot of time effort/money in it . I am sad /disappointed in people and wondering if I did the right thing by telling them x(and mom) to bugger off and see if other clubs will do for them as much as I have ( didn’t actually say it … ) . I’m only human and I think about it everyday day and it’s affecting my mental health and and can’t stop being so angry/sad/guilty about all this . I have contemplated shutting the club down and see if anyone else wants to teach … but the thing is there is no one wanting to step up . I loved being a student myself and don’t like teaching as much but didn’t have a choice.
What could I have done or do things differently in future please people .
Maybe I let students get too close to me you think?
Pls be gentle on me … i just joined reddit and it’s my first post . But would like some honest opinions.