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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/almondnymph on 2024-01-18 16:35:28+00:00.
At the start of any friendship, I make it known that I do not like dogs. There is a lot of backstory to it that doesn't matter too much, but the main reason is that barking causes me severe distress as I have very bad sensory issues.
When I met "Amy" two years ago, one of the first things she brought up was having two dogs that she loved. I immediately told her that was cool, however, I don't like dogs and we should probably just hang out outside and I wouldn't come over to hers. Then one day when we meet up (she takes the bus to meet me), she brings one of her dogs. It's a small dog she can fit in her backpack and it never stops barking. I politely tell her that I cannot handle the sound of barking as it literally makes my head pound and she does what all dog moms do.
"He's just a baby." "He's literally fine don't worry about it." "There's nothing wrong with him barking you'll get over it." "It's so cute how he's barking at the other dogs, he's talking to them!"
When she also knows that I have severe sensory issues (another one is that I cannot be touched and that one can be respected just fine.)
Anyway, this has happened multiple times over the last two years and I've just dealt with it as I love Amy as a friend. I usually just bring earbuds or make sure the dog stays away from me at all times. Except now she keeps talking about moving in together once our leases are up this year and I was into it at first until I remembered she has dogs (object permanence).
I guess I'm asking for help. How would I even go about reminding her of this? I feel like a b*tch.
WIBTA if I told her no, I don't want to move in because of your dogs?