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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/auk218 on 2024-01-18 17:47:37+00:00.
My boyfriend cannot handle alcohol- he drinks way too much and becomes an angry drunk. There was a time when he was an alcoholic (drinking every day, all day). We’ve had many bad episodes until one day there was such a bad episode bordering on abuse (throwing things near me) that I gave an ultimatum to stop drinking. Since then, he hasn’t stopped drinking completely but drinks comparatively less (not to the point of getting piss drunk where he remembers nothing the next day) and is not as much of a mean drunk.
The problem is that a few times the past week he has gotten piss drunk again and while nothing bad happened, it gave me PTSD that a bad cycle may start again. He told me that he would stop drinking completely and he’s a new leaf (he is moving to join me in a new city). However for this weekend he requested if he could drink for a road trip with his friends. I said no. However this week I also got promoted and my friends were thinking of a celebration.
I would like to preface this by saying I am not a drinker (I will have like two drinks in three months). I’m also a workaholic and right now really feel like blowing off steam by having a drink or two with my friends, something I usually avoid doing since I’m so cautious monitoring my partners intake. So AITA for asking him not to drink while not completely stop drinking myself? I feel like I shouldn’t be prevented from having a normal relationship with alcohol just because he can’t control how much he drinks and can’t remember what an asshole he becomes on it.