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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Fearless_Force6815 on 2024-01-18 18:59:44+00:00.
I (M26) have a side job as a model for about 3 years now. I usually do some photoshoots for smaller fashion labels, Iʼm not in magazines or on billboards, my photoshoots just get posted on their social media accounts or their websites, so itʼs not really a big deal. I met my girlfriend Cassie (F25) through a mutual friend, weʼve been dating for almost a year now and weʼre planning to move in together.
Cassie really likes the fact that I have a side job as a model, itʼs always one of the first things she mentions when we meet someone new. She also does it whenever weʼre hanging out with our friends. She often gushes about how handsome and tall I am and jokes that she feels sorry for other women who date less attractive men. At first I was flattered, but after a while it got awkward. The guys in our friend group have started resenting me, because theyʼre not exactly conventionally attractive and when I was single, I would often get all the attention from women at the club while they got overlooked.
Yesterday Cassie and I were hanging out with our friends again, Cassie also brought her new friend along. Her friend got a bit tipsy and made a sexual joke about her husband. Cassie laughed and started bragging about our sex life and casually mentioned that I have a big penis. My friends rolled their eyes and at this point I had enough too. I pulled Cassie aside and told her that her constant bragging about me is getting insufferable and that she needs to find something else to talk about. This started an argument and she claimed I was being rude for calling her insufferable and that other men would be happy if their girlfriend was proud of them. We went back to our friends shortly after, but the mood was obviously ruined. Cassie didnʼt want me to drive her home and drove off with her friend instead. She ignored my texts as well. Iʼm conflicted, because Cassie didnʼt really do anything wrong and I never mentioned that her compliments bothered me until yesterday. So she thought I was being happy about it. But her constant compliments were also condescending towards our friends and sharing intimate details about me was inappropriate and crossed a boundary. Am I the asshole?