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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Worth_Intern2159 on 2024-01-18 14:51:17+00:00.
For context, I (52F) am expecting my first grandchild through my son Jake (28M) and his wife, Anne (28F).
I recently separated from my husband and have been staying with Jake. Since Anne has been unwell, I thought it would be a good idea to take over a few household duties such as cooking. Early in the pregnancy, Jake had told me that Anne was dealing with quite a lot of food aversions and had stopped eating meat. Anne has visibly lost weight and has been back and forth from the hospital for different check ups and was receiving Iron infusions.
When I cook dinner, it’s generally meat and vegetables. I always make a plate for Anne. She always declines to eat and locks herself in the bedroom for the rest of the evening. Jake has told me this is because the smell makes her ill and said has asked if I could either cook on the barbecue outside or try some vegetarian meals.
I decided I would cook outside so Jake wouldn’t have to eat vegetarian food. I continued to make a plate for Anne and she would keep saying no and would hide in her room. I admit I have been starting to worry that Anne has just been using food aversions as an excuse to avoid eating and gaining pregnancy weight.
Things finally came to a head the other night. I cooked again. Anne declined again. I decided to go into her room to confront her. She maintained that even the thought of eating meat made her want to vomit. I ended up losing my temper and told her she was acting like a bratty child by refusing to eat the meat. She needed the iron from it. Refusing to eat a real dinner was going to hurt my grandchild. She got upset with me and told me I needed to leave since I was making everything harder.
I tried to talk to Jake about this but he has sided with Anne and asked me to stay somewhere else. I don't understand. I am just trying to make sure my grandchild is healthy. So AITA for trying to make my daughter in law eat?