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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/sourlemon59 on 2024-01-19 11:29:15+00:00.
Disclaimer before you read: I love my best friend (Ashley) and i would do a lot for her and to see her happy. We have been friends for about 4 years now and close throughout with no major arguments just a handful (like 5 if that) of annoyances if that makes sense. I can just describe it as a married couple bickering lol. Also i have the brain of an overthinker, so i'm not trying to find things wrong but its just where my brain has gone to.
Additional context: i originally had mentioned that i wasn't sure if i could make it because it is very expensive but i moved some money around and ended up not needing to pay a bill i thought i had. So i updated her saying yay i can make it. But now that i have thought about the plans i'm not sure i WANT to go even if i can make it.
My best friends birthday is in about 3 weeks and her celebrations are on the weekend of it. She has planned for her friendship group and me to take a trip up to a major city and stay in her parents condo and go out drinking/clubbing. (for context we are all about 19-22 so its the norm for people our age where we are). One of the main issues i am having with this is that there are 3 couples going + me. So, Ashley and her bf and 2 other couples. I will essentially be 7th wheeling. Now i could maybe possibly get past this if i knew all 6 of them well, but i don't. Don't get me wrong they all seem like lovely people and i get along with them but were not close, so this point alone seems like a very uncomfortable situation for me.
The second thing i'm not too keen on is the drinking and clubbing. I have recently decided to give up alcohol pretty much as a whole with exceptions here or there. For instance nye i went with my boyfriend to a firework show and then a fancy hotel and we drank together. We didn't get hammered, we got a nice amount of drunk and i was in a situation i felt comfortable. I do want to stress that i didn't give up alcohol because of addiction reasons i just am not that fond of it, i hate how vulnerable it makes me and hangovers just all in all it doesn't seem worth it to me to drink. I mentioned this to her and she mentioned that her intentions were to get "white girl wasted" which we have gone out clubbing together before and gotten super drunk like embarrassingly so, which i loved and i love doing things like that with her, occasionally. Also not in February when its fucking freezing outside and the girls are all talking about wearing mini dresses and heels. Again, i love dressing like that so also not judging just i don't really want to in -5c weather.
Thirdly, this is an expensive trip for one night going out. I am unemployed right now and am on a very tight budget and to be very frank i wouldn't want to waste the money that i barely have right now on something i don't think i will enjoy.
so reddit, WIBTA if i cancel on my besties birthday celebrations?