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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Camimo666 on 2024-01-21 19:32:15+00:00.
**English is my second language, sorry if I mess up
My (25f) bf (23m) have been dating for almost three years now. We lived together from June-December. He just moved out from south carolina and is now living in georgia because he joined the army.
In october, he had to go to Kentucky for some in-processing into the army. He was gone for three weeks. When he came back, he had a... scent, to a woman's perfume. I was like very confused because, well, he doesn't even wear cologne. I asked him and he told me it was from his friend Kate. Obviously I was confused but whatever. Kinda ouchie. I also knew that him and Kate would be living in the same city. (we are now almost 7 hours away)
About a week later, he was taking some ugly pictures of me and i went to delete them. I saw that he had about 10-15 pictures with her. Some together and some of just her. Some of her sleeping, some of her eating. I asked him about them and he got sorta defensive but he deleted some of them.
Now, before he moved out, I asked him to please not go to her house or hang out with her alone because it just made me very uncomfortable knowing how close they were getting and that anything could happen. He promised me that he would NEVER EVER be alone with her, that he would not invite her to his house alone and that if she hosted, he would leave when people started to leave because "this relationship is important and he loves me".
Now, today, Kate is moving down to georgia as well as other friends of his. He told me that he might go and help her but her doesn't know when she's getting there. I said "hey i thought you weren't going to be alone with her.." He then called me ridiculous and dramatic. I just don’t understand why he would make a promise just to break it three weeks in.
For context, he has done stuff in the past that has broken the trust several times (he lied about getting the vaccine which was important as my parents are elderly and my mum had cancer) (he lied about some girl asking for his nudes, which he sent her anyways, it was blackmail but idl)
I know I’m not perfect, but am I crazy/ridiculous/the ahole