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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/RevolutionaryMode177 on 2024-01-21 01:05:56+00:00.
I (F18) am in a typical friend group of 6(also all F18), and we’ve been best friends for the past 2 years. Obviously we’re all in our last year of school so we don’t want any unnecessary drama or stress so we barely ever argue. Anyway for context I have dyed red hair, and to maintain the colour I have to use red shampoo, red conditioner, a red hair mask and to wash it under cold water. It’s tedious and my hairstylist also told me not to wash my hair too many times to maintain the colour. My hair is also extremely damaged so washing it too much would probably make me bald and that’s unfortunately not the look I’m going for, so I only wash it twice a week, and so I have an everything shower every time I wash my hair, kind of to kill two birds with one stone. Some of my friends find it disgusting, and keep telling me to wash it even though I’ve explained over and over again that it’s super hard to do that and I don’t want to end up balding or with fading hair, and they keep making jokes about how they can fry eggs in my hair and all that. I normally just laugh it off but it’s gotten so repetitive that laughing it off becomes an acquired skill that I have not mastered. They’re making me seem like this greasy slimeball monster but it’s not even like I’m unhygienic, I brush my teeth every morning and every night, shower at least once every day and never ever skip my morning and evening skincare routine, and the worst thing is that they’re always making these jokes in public at the top of their voices. So anyway the last two weeks were mocks week, and naturally my tedious everything shower routine wasn’t really a priority, and I had to show up to school bare-faced w greasy hair every day which was actually painful for me. All I did today was tell my friends that I was excited to be wearing makeup and pretty clothes to school for the first time in two weeks and finally looking like the cute hyper feminine girly girl I am and they’ve just hit me with a barrage of insults about how I’m so scary and how I can’t be feminine with my unwashed hair because apparently you have to wash your hair every single day. I literally know what to do when there’s grease in my hair, I always style it into a slick bun or any other cute hairstyle that I’ve always thought I look good in but the fact that I don’t wash my hair every day suddenly makes me look like a bloodied goat to the slaughter shitting fear diarrhoea everywhere with matted fur and a single dangly earring. They said I was and I quote, “disgusting” and “scary”, so I just explained that my hair stylist told me not to wash my hair more than twice a week, and they said that “[I] don’t need a licensed doctor or stylist to tell me to wash my hair every day”, so I just went off on them and told them that jokes are funny, but I’d appreciate it if they were at least doing it in a way that made me think they were minding their own business and not making me feel so ugly and so dirty and unfeminine. Am I the asshole for responding the way I did? ALSO, if it’s any solace to anyone, I’m typing this with WASHED hair!! and I’m planning on washing it again before school on Monday! edit: OKAY just wanted to clarify, my hair is nowhere near the point where it’s so damaged i need to cut or shave it, it’s not thin, it’s really thick, it’s not frizzy and it has improved since i started washing it this way! its not very healthy but it is smooth, once again thick and it is moisturised! it’s mostly to maintain the colour but tysm for the concern. it’s not fried at all, it was when i got a chemical perm done years ago in korea, and that took a lot of repairing, even chopped half my hair off that time to recover. it’s longer and healthier now! i’m only listening to my stylist but again tysm for all your concerns once again my hair is NORMAL, it’s not dead at all, but it could be if i don’t take care of it properly, im also just lazy i was just really really really mad when i was typing this so i was exaggerating the condition of my hair by a lot in the heat of the moment! my hair is as damaged as colour treated hair inevitably gets! i get regular hair treatments after colour every salon visit (tokio inkarami n olaplex) <3333