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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/PomegranateOk_3258 on 2024-01-21 01:52:55+00:00.
I (19f) absolutely despise my father. He is not a good father because everything has to his way. He constantly wants me to weight myself on the scale multiple times a day and tell him. One time he caught me eating more rice than I usually do so he made me eat the entire pot of rice, the leftover cake, he made more rice and made me eat it no matter how many times I said no I don't want to. He recently said that he will no longer go grocery shopping since I won't loss weight fast enough.
He wants me to act as his mom (ex: put his laundry away, put his dishes away, text for him, cook for him, etc). In general he's an A-hole. He has no friends due to his poor manners.
Before I went on vacation, we got into an argument and I had to see my doctor because of him. After that, I went on vacation for little over a month. I was happy during that no contact time. Honestly, I didn't want to leave cuz I knew I would see him. I was very mad when he came to pick me up at the airport. He acted if nothing happened.
I have an estranged relative and he knows that I no longer want anything to do with them yet he constantly wants me to help him for them (ex: get their mail and drop it off, get their baby photos and send it to them, get lawyers, etc). I've told him that they are no longer allowed in the house and everyone who lives here agreed yet my father invited her over without telling anyone. The relative has always been in trouble by my parents, work, or minor legal stuff. (I will later post something about the relative later if you all would like one. )
I have thought about it for a long time. I think if he were gone, I would be happier. He is a constant source of my depression. I used to feel bad for him cuz of his childhood but now its to the point where I cannot excuse his behavior anymore.
I'm reaching out here because some people have said that he is an A-hole while others have said he's just a tough dad.
AITA for wanting my father gone?