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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Crafty-Kick-853 on 2024-01-21 11:30:10+00:00.
I, (16F) am the captain of an engineering team at school. There is this one member, let’s call her Veronica, on my team who doesn’t show up and has done almost nothing for our project. TDLR, recently, we had to sterilise some plastic for our project. Usually, we use a machine called an autoclave to sterilise things. What the autoclave does is heat up to such a high degree that it kills everything alive including bacteria. As long as you put inanimate objects in an special autoclave bag, they will be sterilised and the autoclave will not affect it in any other way.
Veronica decided to show up for the first time in weeks to a meeting today, and since she is quite clueless as to what’s going on, I told her to sterilise some products as it is a relatively simple, and straightforward process. We just throw the items into an autoclave bag, and then into the autoclave. She decided to go against my direct orders, stating that the autoclave will melt whatever we put inside. She instead decided to use isopropyl to sterilise the products we’re going to use. I told her not to as the isopropyl was HIGHLY dangerous to the live bio products we intent on using in our experiment, and we don’t have time to buy fresh, uncontaminated samples as our project is due in 3 days. I heard from one member on the team that she decided to use isopropyl behind my back anyways, and that everyone in the room tried to stop her as she was going against my direct orders and we have autoclaved everything in the past to test, and nothing melted. She wouldn’t listen to anyone. I sent the following message in the team groupchat:
“YOU DISOBEYED MY DIRECT ORDERS TO NOT PUT IT IN EHTANOL. AS YOUR CAPTAIN I EXPECT YOU TO VALUE MY INPUT. YOUR ACTIONS SHOW PURE IGNORANCE AND IDIOCY. YOU HAVE POTENTIALLY JEOPARDISED THE ENTIRE EXPERIMENT WITH YOUT BIG ASS EGO AND REFUSAL TO LISTEN TO ANYONE BESIDES YOURSELF. You will face the appropriate consequences xx.”
I then asked her to fix her mistake by emailing our mentor and following through with the appropriate steps to which she said “After you call me an ignorant idiot, no. Deal with it yourself. If you want to message me with isntructions after I start the process, I don't see you as a very responsible captain. Me and my "big ass ego" will not help you any more if you see me as a nuisance.”
Most of the team and our mentors are on my side but I really think I fucked up by publicly calling her out. AITA?