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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Aggressive_Limit_911 on 2024-01-21 17:53:34+00:00.
I 23f and my husband 24m have 3 kids. Our oldest 4m, our second 2f, and our youngest 6 months m love our new life with my brother 21m and his girlfriend 26f. So just a heads up this is a long story. My oldest son was born and my mil was thrilled. There was many issues with her especially when it came to my son.
Fast forward to 2023, I am pregnant with our 3rd child a boy, also my last due to many medical issues. She suckered us into being back in her house by keeping our saved up money claiming it went to bills (it definitely didn't) we wanted to move out of state with my brother to create our own healing space. But she kept the money and said we could live with her rent free and she promised to be more respectful. She took the rent free part back in less than a month.
Boy were we wrong. 2023 was the worst year with her. She blatantly disrespected me and my husband. My son was born on the same day as my oldest son, so I was at the hospital obvi and I asked her to bring my son and daughter to meet their brother, she made a big deal about it and when she got there she rushed it. My son started talking about picking up a cake and she said she just got him a cake I made her promise me in the hospital before she left not to throw a birthday party without me. Me and my newborn son come home there are obvious party stuff left over we throw him a party the next weekend and my son tells everyone he already had a party...and this is when shit really hit the fan.
My mil kicked us out bc my mom came over, yes. That's all that happened. My mom came over I was breastfeeding my baby and sent my husband upstairs to make me a sandwich. She cornered him yelled about how disrespectful we were for bringing her into HER house she made that very clear. She never had issues with my mom before so we were more than confused. We pack up the kids and my mom and go to leave for her house she is saying nasty things TO MY BABIES. She begins to scream and clap at my husband who is almost to the car I am a couple feet infront of her with my kids and I turned and asked her to stop yelling in front of them and she told me to shut up. Tells him F u get off my property and don't come back.
About a month goes by I try for the umteenth time to reconcile with her and allow a relationship with my kids. She begins her toxic behavior again and doing things with my kids without permission cutting hair etc. We then got a call that brothers gfs dad passed, we made the trip 750 miles to help. They then say we should try again to stay and create a life away from the mess and get our minds right. We do and we did. Mil kept being confusing blowing up and saying disrespectful things and we cut her off. Also for context my husband wanted nothing to do with her after our first fight with our first born. I was the only one trying for a relationship with her. She tells everyone I stole her son and grdkids. So AITA for not wanting to try and fix the relationship again?