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Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Firm-Guitar6116 on 2024-01-21 20:39:59+00:00.


Howdy, fellow Redditors! I've (F32) got a daycare tale that's got me mulling over whether I might be in the wrong here. I'm a momma to a precious 16-month-old, and he's got some adorable mixed-race features. My husband is from an Asian country, and our little baby has a beautiful slightly tanned skin and amazing Asian features with some really big eyes. Now, few days ago, I found myself in a bit of a situation with an old gamma of another kid – let's call her Granny Gossip (GG) – and I need your opinions on this one.

GG has made a few comments before about how "exotic" and "beautiful" my baby is. I don’t mind those comments because he is really cute, and by now, I’m used to hearing those. I often just agree and move on with whatever I’m doing. But lately, she is starting to feel a bit much.

The issue started last week. I'm picking up my little one when GG strikes up a friendly chat… fine so far. The teacher comes and puts my son on the floor so he can walk towards me. Suddenly, GG gets in front of me and makes signals for my baby to go to her. I was shocked at first, but I gently pushed her a bit aside and picked up my kid. She appeared to be annoyed, but I shut down any attempts of complaint by cordially, but firmly, stating that I was the mother and she has no business doing what she just did.

Fast forward to this week, and guess what? GG is at it again, making comments about my baby's looks, but after last week’s incident, I didn’t entertain her at all. When my kid comes, anyone would have thought that she got the message, but it seems like she missed the memo. This time, I wasn't as polite – I walked right up to her, and I admit that I said some choice words, along with a clear message that my son has nothing to do with her. She's not the mother nor the grandma, and she has absolutely no business trying to attract the attention of my kid like that, even more in front of me.

Some might say I'm being oversensitive, but I reckon it's my right as a momma to set some boundaries. My husband is with me, but he thinks that I could have handled things better. Also, I have seen other parents giving me a judgmental look. So, AITA for telling GG to back off and let my baby arc himself towards his momma, not towards her?

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