Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/wyndqueen on 2024-01-21 22:41:10+00:00.

There isn't a date set for it, she was thinking of doing it 3 years from now, which is fine but I feel like it's too early to be asking anyone if that's the case. Plans change and later she could just kick me out entirely.

I personally just don't want to do it because there's a lot of responsibility. I also don't think I'd be a good bridesmaid or MOH, so I don't want to ruin it for her. We aren't that close and I feel like she has some friends she could ask instead of me. Idk if she asked in obligation because I'm her sister, but it wouldn't have hurt my feelings if she didn't ask me.

My husband and I have also been talking about possibly moving out of state and we aren't sure when it will happen. I know I could still be in it if we did move but that'd be more stress.

ETA- Sister and mom are both upset over this.