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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/IntelligentSoup7857 on 2024-01-21 10:27:26+00:00.
I 24f have a close friend Sara 25f who is dating Ted. We were best friends with Sara since high school and we’ve always been there for each other. I have met Ted briefly once as him and Sara have been together for a month.
Recently we have been distant, as Sara has blown off our plans or cancelled them last minute, for me to see on social media that she went to do something with Ted instead. This upset me, as I moved further away for my husband’s job, so us meeting up isn’t a last minute plan, and made weeks beforehand as I’m far but also pregnant so I have to find pub lic transport as my husband takes the car to work.
After Sara flaked a second time to hang out with Ted, I told her how I felt about her blowing me off and Sara apologised and offered to help plan my baby shower to make up for it. Sara is an events planner and took care of everything. I organised catering for lunch, and sent Sara to all-girl guest list to let her know how many heads she’s have to account for. My sister helped, and I made it clear to both of them to add on the invites no partners, except one of my friend Amy’s invite as she is gay and I wanted her girlfriend to come.
Yesterday was my baby shower, and Sara brought Ted. I assumed he was dropping her off, but he took his coat off with Sara and I pulled Sara aside to say politely we don’t have enough food for Ted, and she insisted they could share off the same plate.
I got upset and then my sister asked Sara if she could ask Ted to leave, but Sara said if Ted left she would too so I kicked them both out. My baby shower after was ok then, but I missed Sara for most of it.
I checked my phone today to find Sara upset that I kicked her out and embarrassed her in front of all our friends and a text from Ted saying he got my number from Sara and as he heard Amy’s partner was coming he thought he could come too.